Tuesday, June 7, 2011

A Day Off

According to the Bible, God took a day off.  Many religions recommend the day off idea, but how many of us actually do it?  I've noticed that when many people "take a day off" they rush around doing a bunch of things they consider fun and arrive at the end of the day, completely worn out!  My idea of a day off is to sleep as long as I do in the morning and take a nap if I get sleepy in the afternoon.  I eat food I love, making sure it's what my body wants and needs.  It turns out that it's not true that the only food I love is food that's not good for me.  There are lots and lots of ways to fix vegetables and fruit that I truly love!

I listen to music I love and really listen to it.  I lie down on the floor so I can feel the vibrations of the music, close my eyes and don't do another thing but listen.  I listen until I'm full of music and am ready to do something else.  Usually that entails several hours of reading since I love to read but usually read in spurts.  Several hours of reading is an incredible treat.  On my day off I almost always spend a lot of time outside.  If the weather is hot, I will probably make this time early in the morning (instead of sleeping in, I have a longer nap).  If the weather is very cold, I may just take some time to look out a window for awhile.  Even if it's too cold to sit outside, I can walk around for a little while and just take in my surroundings.

My day off is a good time to take a bubble bath for as long as I want to.  Sometimes I get a pedicure or a massage.  For much of my life I was a driven person - anxiety about not getting everything done wore me out even if I was lying down.  After several years of that, I was ready to have days off when all I did was nurture myself!  Someone elses' day off will surely look different than mine, but I believe days off are completely necessary for the life of our dreams.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Rituals for Home

For me rituals are the way I can make the ordinary things I do everyday more enjoyable.  Since I eat, sleep and take baths everyday, why not make those habits a little more enjoyable?  I've been doing some of these things for over twenty years now and still enjoy them. 

There are almost always fresh flowers on my table.  When I quit smoking almost 27 years ago, I promised myself that I would always have fresh flowers.  The money I was saving on cigarettes was enormous and a $5.00 bunch of flowers at the grocery store was surely not going to break the bank. 

Some time in there I fell in love with soft, flowing, new age music and began a collection.  I also found radio stations that played it, so you will almost always find that type of music playing in the background at my house. 

Someone gave me a scented candle many years ago, and I fell in love with those too.  I don't like all of them, for sure.  I mostly like herbal and flower scents, and so there's almost always one of those candles burning when I'm at home. 

I have two particular types of bubble bath that I like and every bath I take is a bubble bath.  From time to time I try others but always come back to my favorites.  I've used what I call my extra cigarette money to buy sheets I like.  In the summer they're satin and in the winter they're flannel. 

My bedroom is as much a reflection of what I love as anything in my house.  For example, there are a myriad of teddy bears on the bookshelves covered with books I love.  The teddy bears were all given to me by friends when I was in the hospital after a terrible wreck.  I look at them before I go to sleep and am reminded that love always surroundeds me.

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Making Home a Beautiful Place

I used to simply hate and avoid a lot of the tasks I had to do at home, so I often just wanted to be somewhere else besides home.  The first thing I did to solve the problem, of course, was get some help, but I was still left with the day to day chores.  During that period of my life several books were available that helped a lot.  One was Alexandra Stoddard's "Living a Beautiful Life" and the "Simple Abundance" book I've already mentioned.  Another book that came in handy was "The Woman's Comfort Book" by Jennifer Louden.  All three of these books recommended that I turn tasks I hated into rituals of beauty.

I truly thought the authors had gone nuts at first.  Drudgery is drudgery.  Finding a way to make laundry, dishes, vacuuming and bill paying beautiful was way too lofty to suit me.  But the concept that my home is a blank slate that I can use to paint a beautiful picture kind of spoke to my heart.  And all three of the authors pointed out that home is where I spend more than half my time so why wouldn't it be worth putting some creativity and care into making it and the care of it beautiful?

Some ideas I tried:  Choose music to accompany a task.  If I was cleaning house, I picked rock and roll - the faster the beat the better.  I went just as fast as I could and used the cleaning as a workout.  So I not only got to enjoy the music but scratch exercise off my list as well.  Classical music seems to go with paying bills.  I use a pretty pen, and I have a filing system that helps me keep bills straight and in order for paying.  Planning meals with appearance as well as taste is another creative joy.  It's worth a few extra pennies to buy garnishes at the grocery store.  Coordinating the bright yellows, oranges, greens and reds of fruits and vegetables at each meal is fun too.