Who are you really?

It may be that from time to time you get stuck and aren't taking the actions you need to take to create the life of your dreams. It's hard to work toward long term goals because our brains are programmed to seek rewards instantly. So, from time to time we will probably need to take some kind of action to remind ourselves of why we're doing all this.

Maybe it would help to take another day off. On this day, dress differently than you usually do, eat something that appeals to you that you've never tried before, speak to strangers that look interesting, take a different route, take a different approach to a task, or try anything else that's different than you usually do.

This is another way to practice noticing who you really are and what you really enjoy, and by discovering yourself, you motivate yourself to take the sometimes difficult, sometimes boring actions that are necessary to reach the life of your dreams.

The Environment of the Life of Your Dreams

Can you enjoy the life of your dreams when it's 105 degrees outside? How about 3 degrees below zero? What if your life partner is doing something you absolutely hate? What if your boss has assigned you a job you really don't want to do? What if you're allergic to chocolate, you ate some anyway and now your stomach really hurts? How about if you're stuck in traffic and are going to be late to an important meeting?

None of these things except the chocolate is under your control. Even the chocolate is out of your control now. So....where did the life of your dreams go? Actually it didn't leave. Your attitude just changed. In this present time, it is extremely common for all of us to use our time to complain bitterly about circumstances we don't like. It's a deeply ingrained habit. We seem to think that griping will make it better just like when we were babies and screamed in our beds and our mothers came and made whatever it was better.

The thing is we're not babies now. Even if our mothers could come and help us out, a lot of things would be out of her control too. Maybe we had better learn to stop griping and accept the things we can't change. Even better, maybe we could learn to love some of them!

A day off...

When was the last time you took a day off? I mean an actual day off. I mean the kind where you don't even do the dishes. In order to have the life of your dreams, a lot of these days off are required. I suggest that when you've had a cup of coffee, you sit in your chair and ask yourself what you want to do right at that moment. Then do that. When you've finished, sit in your chair and ask yourself what you want to do next and then do that. And so forth. See what happens. Nothing bad will happen. It's only for one day. All the chores will wait. Everything will wait one day while you get in touch with what you really want, moment by moment. See if you can get in touch with your heart in the moment. Your life isn't in the future or the past anyway. This kind of day off is practicing for getting better and better at living your real life as the real you.

Practice

Right after you get all the information you need to take the first step in creating a component of the life of your dreams, you run into a scary obstacle. You don't know how to do it because you've never done it before. This is a great recipe for procrastination because everytime you think about taking this next step, the fear comes up, and you start doing something else. Guess what! There's a very easy way to practice without having any fear of screwing up. Sitting quietly in your favorite chair, imagine yourself taking the next step. Imagine all the ways you could mess up because you've never done it before. Then imagine all the ways you could avoid these mess ups. See if you need more information. If not, then you have practiced without bad consequences for mess ups and you are ready to take the step for real. You have prepared yourself to avoid problems and will probably sail through the experience successfully.