How to Find Out what You REALLY Want

Maybe you are one of those people who was taught that only very unusual, talented people got to have the life of their dreams (and, of course, they told you that you were not one of them).  There's an almost 100% chance that you've been misled.  Even if you have some severe disabilities, you still have a really good chance of having the life of your dreams.  The thing is, the barriers you are meeting that stand in your way actually come from what you learned as a child.  So, the work you will need to do to reach the life of your dreams will have to start (and continue) with working on your own mind and your beliefs about yourself and the world.

Step One - and you can't skip this one - is to make it a habit to watch your thoughts.  This practice begins with taking some time every day to just sit still and observe how your mind constantly races with thoughts about this and that.  You are probably so used to this that you aren't really paying attention most of the time.  But this process totally influences how you feel and what you do.  That's the bad news because most of your thoughts are either going to be inconsequential or negative.  So, I'm sorry to say, a lot of what you and a lot of other people do every day is either inconsequential (having nothing to do with the life of your dreams) or negative.

Then off and on throughout the day, just notice what you are thinking.  You will find that a lot of your thoughts are kicking yourself for mistakes you made, complaints about other people and/or your environment, and worry about the future.  As you notice your thoughts, also notice that none of them are helpful to you in any way whatsoever and that none of them help you get to the life of your dreams.

Step Two - The good news is that all this noticing your thoughts is just a lead in to changing them to better and more helpful thoughts.  Yes, I know, most of us have been taught to believe that our thoughts are out of our control.  But the good news is, as I just said, that's not true - we can definitely make a huge dent in the nonsense our brains churn out on a day to day basis.  The bad news is that it's a lot of work.  So, if you really want what you've envisioned as the life of your dreams, it's going to cost you a lot of work - mental work, that is.

Step Three - Begin to imagine what the life of your dreams would be like.  All the goal-setting gurus say that without this step, you can't possibly have what you want.  Take the time every day to just spend a few minutes imagining what your life will be like when you get to the life you want.  Where will you live?  What will you be doing every day?  Who else will be there?  What will you do for fun?  How much money will you need and how will you spend it?  What will you wear for clothes.  How will your health be?  There are hundreds of questions to ask yourself.

Step Four -  Begin to occupy your thoughts with ideas about the answers to these questions. Trust me, you are going to enjoy your thoughts a lot more when they're focused on what you want.  As part of this process, be sure to ask yourself if these are things you REALLY want.  As you imagine them, see how you feel emotionally and how your body feels.  Do you feel happy and excited or does imagining these things make you feel anxious.  If you feel anxious, ask yourself why.  Maybe you just thought you wanted these things but there are other things you might like better.

Step Five -  As you imagine these things and what it will be like to have them, there would be nothing wrong with also using your creativity to imagine what you would need to do to create them.

With these five steps you can make a terrific start on creating the life of your dreams.  The positive emotions you will have by changing your thought will motivate you to begin taking the steps to a life that is closer and closer to what you REALLY want.