What you think you want is usually not really what you want. Most of the time, what you think you want is merely a clue, a hint, a pointer to what you truly desire. When you feel that you want something, challenge yourself to find the deeper desire that's responsible. Ask yourself why, and be completely honest with your answer.

If you pursue life's fleeting, superficial wants, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, even when you get what you want. Instead, take the time to understand your deeper desires, and you'll find countless ways to bring real, meaningful and lasting value to life.

When there's something you want, ask why, again and again until you uncover a purpose so authentic that it cannot be denied. And when you do, you'll also see that your desire has already begun to be fulfilled.
-- Ralph Marston

It can take years to discover that what we think we want isn't it. But once we know to look deeper - because we have so often gotten what we wanted and it didn't bring the joy and value to our lives we thought it would - we don't have to waste time on the wishes for a new car, new clothes, and more money. We can zero in on who we really are and what our purposes on earth really are. From purpose flows true desire and the capability to capture the life of our dreams.

Yes I can

Don't panic.
Breath.
Stop saying, I can't.
Part of the language of letting go is learning to say, I can.
Give the gift of confidence to yourself. ~Melody Beattie

What a gift it is to stop saying, "I can't." I had no idea it would have so much magic. The truth is, "I can!" Because I have help whenever I am willing to receive it. Because I am so much more capable than I ever imagined. Because I know my life could be over in the next second and I don't want to waste my life saying, "I can't."

It is wise to plan for the future and to prepare for the future. Yet there is no need to worry about the future.
Because whatever the future may bring, you will find an answer for it. Whatever events may transpire, you can craft a powerful and successful response that will move your life forward. It may indeed be very difficult. And in transcending that difficulty, you have the opportunity to find great fulfillment. Ralph Marston

For many of us the concept of simply planning and preparing instead of worrying is revolutionary. We seem to be taught that worrying is the thing good people do and that it will somehow help. But it definitely does not. We are far more capable than we believe - we are capable of creatively responding to difficult events in a way that benefits us and the world. In so doing, we learn and grow in ways we never could have imagined.